“You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that wisened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”
— author unknown
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How to offer comfort/give sympathy
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At some point, we all deal with anxiety.
Friendships can be an excellent source of comfort for our anxious loved ones.
Being a shoulder to cry on and holding that space for your friend is more important than even having the right thing to say.
Talking Points
Hey, I have some errands today, do you want to join me? We could grab lunch or coffee.
I thought about you earlier today. Want to grab a cup of coffee?
I know you have a lot on your plate. Mind if I come by? We can go for a walk.
Hey friend, just checking in on you. Is there anything I can do for you? I hope you’re talking care of yourself.
I think you’re doing a really good job handling some tough shit.
I don’t know what to say, but I’m here to listen. Do you want to talk?
Can I just sit with you and be in your airspace?
A Big Freaking List of Comforting Statements
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I see how upset you are, and I’m sorry to see you struggle.
Acknowledgment
You have every right to feel the way you do.
Acknowledgment
I can’t imagine how you must feel.
Acknowledgment
It’s okay to be sad.
Acknowledgment
It’s okay to be sad.
Acknowledgment
You’re doing everything you need to do. Sometimes, just taking it hour by hour is enough. This is one of those times.
Reassure
I know you don’t feel it right now, but you will feel better eventually.
Reassure
You are so loved.
Reassure
You are stronger than you know.
Reassure
I’ve got you, boo.
Reassure
I’ve got your back.
Reassure
I think it’s brave that you get up every day despite knowing how hard it is. Thank you for not giving up.
Reassure
You can handle this, especially if you take it one step at a time.
Reassure
You have a 100 percent track record for getting through tough days.
Reassure
Feelings are not facts and not all thoughts are true.
Reassure
This too shall pass.
Reassure
You can and will get through this.
Reassure
If it’s out of your hands, it should be free from your mind too.
Reassure
I’m here to feel with you and let you know you’re not alone.
Reassure
Hang in there.
Reassure
Please remember I’m here for you, not to intrude, but to support in whatever way you need me.
Comfort
Divorce is okay. Starting over is okay. Moving on is okay. Saying no is okay. Being alone is okay. What’s not okay is staying somewhere where you aren’t happy, valued, or appreciated.
Divorce
With divorce comes renewal. With leaving comes arriving at a healthy place. With shedding the toxic comes a brilliant new glow and a slow but steady process of rediscovering yourself. You lose the one who caused you to walk on eggshells, the one who seemed annoyed every time you tried to talk about important things, the one who always acted as if you weren’t good enough. Yet, you were chosen by them because of your natural goodness.
Divorce
You’re stuck in this miserable page in a crappy chapter, but baby, you have no idea that there is so much more to the book. You’ll realize that. Someday soon, I promise.
Divorce
Love is not how much pain you can tolerate from your partner. You made the right decision.
Divorce
I know that you feel broken right now. But trust me, my friend, you are so strong. You’re holding yourself together and even though you think you will shatter at any moment, you don’t stop. You just heal. It may not be pretty or grateful, but fuck it, you keep going.
Divorce
With time, you’ll see that the crazy, anxious person version of you was simply a kindhearted, tender person reacting to a very unkind situation.
Divorce
You’re so strong. You left someone who did you wrong and it was someone you never that you’d leave. That’s incredibly brave – you looked beyond what you had, what you wanted and decided to chase what you needed.
Divorce
Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. Forgive yourself for giving away your power. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. You did what you had to do to survive. You did the best you could do with the information you had at the time.
Divorce
I’m so sorry to hear that <name> is unwell. If there is anything I can do — even bake you guys a mean casserole — just let me know!
Illness – Partner
Wishing <name> warm and sunny wishes for a speedy recovery.
Illness – Partner
Hoping this finds you and <name> well on the way to a speedy recovery.
Illness – Partner
Hoping each new day will find <name> feeling better.
Illness – Partner
Hope he/she will soon be well.
Illness – Partner
Hope her/his hospital stay is a short one.
Illness – Partner
Wishing him/her a speedy recovery.
Illness – Partner
Just a cheery note to wish you and <name> well.
Illness – Partner
Sending you peaceful thoughts and warm wishes.
Illness – Partner
Thinking of you and hoping you’re feeling better soon
Illness – Partner
Thinking of you and <name> and I’m hoping he/she is feeling better.
Illness – Partner
I hope his/her illness will soon be only a memory.
Illness – Partner
Just a note to let you know how much I care.
Illness – Partner
Hope he/se will continue to feel better every day.
Illness – Partner
Hope he/she will be in the best of health again soon.
Illness – Partner
My thoughts are with you with love and caring.
Illness – Partner
Hoping he/she feels stronger with each passing day.
Illness – Partner
With love and special wishes that <name> will soon be feeling better.
Illness – Partner
Hope he/she is up and about soon.
Illness – Partner
I know this is hard and you’re not alone. If there is anything I can do to make life easier, better, or kinder to you, let me know and I’ll be happy to do it.
Reassure Comfort
I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now, but know that I’m here for anything and everything.
Comfort
It’s okay to be angry and it’s okay to be frustrated.
Acknowledgment
I’m so sorry you are experiencing this, I wish there was something I could do to make your life better – but until then I can at least be by your side in any way possible.
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