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- You might have a friendship that you don’t wish to continue. It happens! People drift apart; interests change because people change.
- How do you handle that awkward situation when they keep calling and texting?
- What do you do when you want to break up with your friend?
- There are different schools of thought on this, but the Editors of TPfL believe that letting the friendship die of natural causes is the best course of action.
- While some argue that a confrontation is called for (and sometimes it is), there isn’t much to be gained in confronting someone to tell them you don’t want to be friends anymore. It seems needlessly cruel to do just to make yourself feel better.
- Silence, “ghosting,” is, in fact, a communication. If someone has ghosted you, take the message (don’t take it personally). Take the message that you are not essential to that person’s life and move on. There are 8 billion people on this planet. You will find other friends.
- This is not a popular opinion, so in light of that, TPfL is providing a few talking points to help you in case you decide that a conversation is needed.
Talking Points
- Hi <Name>, I have to say something and it may be difficult to hear. While I have been so grateful for our friendship, I think it’s run its course.
- Our interests and goals are so different that I think we have a difficult time connecting.
- I have nothing but the warmest affection/feelings for you, but I just know with my limited time these days that I’m not able to be the friend you deserve.
Further Reading
I recommend reading Dr. Falconer’s book on this topic. I don’t agree with everything she suggests, but I think she covers many essential points for anyone who finds themselves in this situation:
How to Break Up with Your Friends: Finding Meaning, Connection, and Boundaries in Modern Friendships by Erin Falconer
